Up to 20% of humanity is born as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). These people mostly have very intuitive and empathic personalities and are easily overpowered when surrounded by big crowds. As a result they often feel confused and socially challenged, and therefore can become very uncertain of themselves.
You are most likely an HSP if you agree to more than one of the following:
- Are you ever told that you are overly sensitive?
- Do you sense what other people feel, without them being aware of it?
- Have you been overwhelmed by other people’s feelings?
- Do you feel challenged in distinguishing which feelings are yours and which belong to others?
- Do you get stressed when you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?
- Are you overly sensitive to noise, scent and light?
If you are an HSP, you tend to be able to perceive subtle signals that others miss. Because of this, you may lean towards feeling overwhelmed and irritated, which causes you to feel uncomfortable in certain social settings. Therefore, a life of solitude is often preferred. However, though the majority of HSPs tend to be introverted, about 30 % is socially extravert. They do like to surround themselves with groups of people during different parts of their lives. However, it is my experience that this changes with aging. An innate desire tends to arise to connect with one’s inner being, and to keep energies balanced. So there is often an increased need to be more on one’s own.
HSPs have a very rich inner world and tend to be focused on quality rather than quantity. They are excellent thinkers, advisers and spiritual leaders. They tend to be considerate and have a vivid inner life – something our civilization needs more of!!!
They have a tendency to bring balance to the impulsive, material world which is more focused on personal enrichment and outer appearance.
Hence it would be beneficial for humanity if HSPs came out of their comfort zones and shared their rich intuitive qualities and talents with the rest of the world.
We are all born to enhance life by fulfilling our individual calling, which is linked to our gifts and talents. We each have an occupation which tends to become clear during the course of our life. However, because an HSP is highly attuned to the needs of others, getting the balance between fulfilling one’s own needs and desires whilst also feeling the need to please others can be very challenging.
Despite what we may feel, anyone who is determined to work seriously on their life purpose, will find that they are perfectly equipped to follow their inner calling. How could you not be? After all, it is your destiny! Becoming practical is key in preventing yourself from getting lost in our busy world. Find tasks and challenges which are workable for you, and give room for your special talents and needs. Using your inner richness in a pragmatic, down-to-earth manner is a very satisfying way to follow your heart.
Due to an HSPs nature tending towards overstress, consideration of physical needs becomes important. Setting personal boundaries and pulling back when needed is essential to preserving energy. It helps to practise discernment as to what, when and whom you give of yourself.
It is important to look after yourself, and to give the same loving care and attention to yourself that you would give to someone special! Self-nurturing is key to standing tall and staying grounded. This call from within should at all times be taken seriously, as it will make you feel more whole and balanced.
Always remain sensitively aware, and especially so if this quality is not strongly emphasized in your society or culture. Above all, begin recognising and acknowledging your unique gifts and talents. They are much needed in our world! Be proud of who you are and what you came here to be!!
If you are interested in reading more about HSPs, and/or to get a better understanding of what it is to be an HSP, I highly recommend the book and website of Elaine N. Aron:
Book: “The Highly Sensitive Person. How to thrive when the world overwhelms you” by Elaine N. Aron.
Boek: “Hoog Sensitieve Personen. Hoe blijf je overeind als de wereld je overweldigt” door Elaine N. Aron.
Nog een interessante link: “Hoogsensitiviteit als bron”
I loved the information you provided here , Monique ! I recognized so much the traits of my own sensitivity and it brings to light so much of my behavior and how the behavior of others has affected me in my life … i used to be a lot more social and i exposed myself to a lot of hurt , but that was life then …i don’t think i had a choice ! Fortunately , now i do and i find solitude works for me , just as you mentioned ! Thank you for putting things into a better perspective and helping me understand myself better , my dear wise Friend !
Thank you for sharing your story Gabriela dear!! ‘m very pleased to hear that this blog has helped you to bring your personal experience into a more clear perspective. It is the reason I love to write and share them! Knowledge and insight about ourselves can bring such peacefulness and trust. Like Oprah says: “If we know better, we do better!” It is the charm of getting older…. and wiser! 😉
Much Love ♡
My dear Monique , after reading some more from Elaine Aron’s excerpt i conclude that this World would be a better one if more people were “affected” by high sensitivity !
Mooi en duidelijk hoe jij onverklaarbare emoties en gevoelens mooi weet te omschrijven en uit te leggen!
Dank je,lieve Monique, het geeft meer helderheid als je beseft dat je toch wel tot hoog sensibel bent en je er duidelijke oorzaken, gevolgen, gevoelens! Dank je lieve Monique om meer inzicht te krijgen. ( jij zou Lieve moeten kennen, wat een verrijking voor elkaar en iedereen zou dat zijn!!!)
Sorry voor de fouten…” En er toch meer inzicht in krijgt…
I liked HSP