In life, we all have a certain desire to feel valued and accepted for who we are. As a flower needs water and sunlight to grow, human beings need love and respect to become whole and balanced. This given is the foundation for self-love, which commences during our childhood when receiving unconditional love.
For most of us, feeling valuable and deserving from within is an intensive process. Intensified with expectations to behave in accordance with accepted social standards and family descent. This might teach us some valuable lessons about the unwritten laws of our society. If we compromise our worthiness in order to feel accepted, it can become harmful for our individuality. This may influence our life in profound ways, and as a result we may become judgmental towards ourselves or others.
Build Trust and Confidence
Acknowledging and replacing our childhood beliefs brings our reality into a new light and leads to authentic empowerment. We can do this by reconnecting with ourselves and recognising the beautiful qualities we have. Our birth-gift, which we exposed so naturally as a child, is still part of us and needs to be acknowledged and liberated.
We may try to hide behind created façades, like our smiles, responsibilities, excessive food intake or hard work. In reality, however, they are merely substitutes for a desire for unconditional self-love, which is an essential part to obtain self-confidence. Simultaneously, making us less vulnerable to the opinion of others.
We can neither grow nor heal ourselves unless we are willing to look within. Lovingly and compassionately, without judgement or fear. Realising we are perfect, just the way we are. Always go at your own pace, because we are all different. You were born to be you, with all its aspects, raw and beautiful!
Becoming honest with yourself requires making choices which are in alignment with your inner truth. Decisions that generate happiness, fulfilment and vitality, and are interconnected with your talents and purpose. It also means, connecting with those who respect and support you. On the contrary, stay away from situations and people that take away your energy and joy. Discernment is key!
We often feel guilty if we ‘let go’ of people and think we are not very loving human beings. But looking at it from a soul perspective, how compassionate are we towards ourselves if we stay connected to those who are in conflict with our highest purpose.
True value comes from you only! The opinion of others is merely a perception of their own mind and belief, and therefore not real. You define you, that is real. You decide who and what you are.
The way you present yourself to the world is a direct reflection of your self-worth. By loving yourself, you automatically receive the love and appreciation you desire from others. You expose yourself to a whole new way of living. A way of life that not only benefits you but also the people around you. You will attract people and situations that support your mission and enhance your life. At the same time, you invite others to do the same.
Loving yourself is the greatest gift you can offer anyone in your life. We are all born with a unique set of skills and talents, our so called birth-gift. We might not always be aware of it, but at some point we will receive an appeal from within. An inner voice, our intuition, which wants to be heard, acknowledged and lived. In order to answer that calling, we need to value and accept ourselves first, exactly as we are. A vital step which enables us to feel free and create our own adventure. A journey directed by the heart, liberated from expectations which have been put on us, either by the outside world or by ourselves.
Being loved is essential, but loving yourself is vital!
Sometimes your heart flows with love and gratitude. At other times, you feel stuck in worries, pain, self-doubt or a sense of lacking. These powerful affirmations can be helpful, holding the truth which is not always visible to us.
10 Commandments for Self Love
inspired by Peter den Haring
- I AM WHO I AM
- I AM ALLOWED TO MAKE MISTAKES
- I RECEIVE EXACTLY WHAT I NEED
- I ONLY NEED TO BE 100% HONEST WITH MYSELF
- TRUE VALUE COMES FROM WITHIN
- I KEEP MY ATTENTION IN THE PRESENT MOMENT
- EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN PACE
- I AM A WORK IN PROGRESS
- MY INNER BEING IS POWERFUL
- I LOVE MYSELF UNCONDITIONALLY